No thank you to January 1st!
Welcome to 2022!
If you’re like the rest of the human race, you’re currently between
THIS IS GOING TO BE MY BEST YEAR EVER
or
I don't even know where to start!
You are in good company my dear. This changing your life business can be tough! Even when you have a plan and know what you’re doing.
Like most people, I have goals for this year. BIG goals. Both personal and for my business.
But unlike most people, I’m not rushing to leap into them.
My strategy is one that's calm, carefully thought out and doesn't require me to hustle my way into stress that's going to make my brain freak out…
Or send me straight into a pint of peanut butter ice cream.
I want to share my strategy with you, and why I do it this way… so stick around I promise to try be short!
In January I do decide what my goals will be, but I EASE my way in.
Instead of trying to overhaul my whole life on Jan 1, as well as get back to work and everything else that comes with not being on vacation… like getting my brain back on board and getting out of my pajamas every day… I just take a couple weeks to adjust and lay the foundations for my year.
I start with just taking stock of my life and deciding… what do I really want to achieve this year? What would make a meaningful change to my life?
Then I pick 1 goal. Yes, JUST ONE!
and I break it down into something I can do within about 3 months.
This makes it way easier to implement AND doesn’t send me into an anxious spin of
THIS IS MY LIFE NOW AND I HAVE TO DO IT PERFECTLY FOREVER!
Then I spend some time looking at what will need to change.
What habits need to be built
Where I’m likely to get stuck and off track.
What strategies I can create around those exact things.
Who I need to become to reach that goal.
When I’ve got all that firmly settled in my mind, I GO!
There are two reasons why I do this.
The first is to avoid overload.
Your brain literally cannot deal with a whole bunch of changes at once. It like change AT ALL, and if you overload it, it takes just one bad day to switch back to what it was doing before.
This is why most people's resolutions don't last. Their brain isn't on board.
The other reason is because I know that my goals aren't really what will make me happy.
When we rush towards a goal it's almost always because we think it will change how we feel about ourselves.
I will never forget the day that I stepped on the scale and had achieved my goal weight.
It was bitterly disappointing.
I thought that reaching that magic number would make me happy, confident, brimming with self respect.
It didn't. I had worked incredibly hard on my weight loss, but never took a moment to fix the real reasons why I wasn't confident and happy.
I know now that jumping into changes, desperate to reach my goal means that I’m placing a dangerous pressure on myself. That pressure alone can throw you off track.
Because on days when its hard (and there WILL be days where its hard or you fail outright) it seems like a much bigger failure than it really is if your self esteem and happiness is riding on it.
So before you jump into 2022 and make ALL THE CHANGES, take a little time to step back and really get clear what you want, pick only one goal at a time and get smart with your strategies!
Happy New Year and Go get em!
